The final post in our Motherhood Month is from TalkMum Nat, who is a freelance journalist, blogger, social media consultant and mum to two boys. Here’s Nat on her life as a mum, and some advice for new parents:
I know that there was a B.C. (Before Children) time in life, and I have to say I cling to those memories from time to time. There are photos, laughs and tears to prove we lived for years as a couple without kids, but sometimes I can barely remember those times and forget it was just us.
Some things, like lack of sleep, temper tantrums, bugs and crippling pain from standing on Lego were expected, but other elements took me surprise. If you manage to drink a cold cup of coffee you are doing well, having a wee on your own is unusual and sitting down for longer than it takes to complete a puzzle is rare!
The thing is there are a lot of myths about becoming a parent and the biggest is that it will be a time of idyllic happiness. Well it is sort of, but the reality is that at times it can be a challenge, it is hard work and not everyone finds it easy to adapt to a new way of life however much they wanted a baby.
The thing is not to beat yourself up about how you feel. If you are down, then see your GP incase you have post natal depression and don’t suffer alone. There is huge pressure to be the perfect mummy who looks great, is back in skinny jeans, has a baby that sleeps through the nigh ASAP, has the perfect relationship and is still climbing the corporate ladder in a pencil skirt and heels.
That isn’t reality and below are a few tips I hope will stop others feeling like I did are: Read more